When it comes to preventing unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV, there’s often one question that gets sidelined: Should women carry condoms? The answer is simple—yes, they absolutely should! But let’s unpack why this is an important conversation.
In Rwanda, like in many other places, there’s still a lingering belief that carrying condoms is solely a man’s responsibility. However, both men and women share equal responsibility for safe sex. After all, the repercussions of unsafe sex—unintended pregnancies, STIs, and HIV—affect both partners.
According to the 2020 Rwanda Demographic and Health Survey (DHS), the HIV prevalence rate among adults aged 15-49 is around 3%. Additionally, unintended pregnancies are a reality, with 19% of births reported as unplanned. These statistics highlight the need for both partners to play a proactive role in protection.
First, let’s address the elephant in the room. In some cultures, including Rwandan society, women carrying condoms might be seen as promiscuous. But it’s important to shift this narrative. Women who carry condoms are not irresponsible; they are empowered, taking charge of their health. A woman who has access to condoms has the power to negotiate safer sex, which is crucial in relationships where this may be difficult to discuss.
As one 23-year-old Kigali university student, Ange, puts it: “It’s not about trust issues or thinking that you’re going to cheat. It’s about being smart. I’m in control of my body, so why should I wait for someone else to protect it?”
Condoms aren’t just a “guy thing.” They offer protection for both partners, preventing both pregnancies and infections. There’s a common myth that condoms are uncomfortable or reduce pleasure, but that’s far outweighed by the benefits of avoiding STIs or an unintended pregnancy. In Rwanda, conversations around sexual health have been increasing, but we still have a long way to go when it comes to breaking down stigma.
Jean-Claude, a 27-year-old software developer from Kigali, shares his perspective: “I think it’s cool when a girl is prepared. It shows she’s serious about protecting herself and me. Plus, it takes the pressure off having to be the only one thinking about it.”
Both partners must share the responsibility for protection. It’s not only about being prepared; it’s also about being open and honest in your communication. In relationships, it’s essential to have conversations about safe sex, and carrying condoms shouldn’t be a taboo topic. In fact, it should be normalized. The responsibility for preventing unintended pregnancies and STIs is not one-sided, and that’s why both men and women should be comfortable with protection.
HIV, for instance, doesn’t care about gender. According to UNAIDS, women in sub-Saharan Africa are disproportionately affected by HIV, but this is not just a women’s issue—it’s everyone’s issue. One simple act—carrying condoms—can drastically reduce the risk of HIV transmission and other infections.
This conversation is especially relevant to Rwanda’s youth. With 60% of the population under 25, young people are the future of the country, and their health decisions today will shape Rwanda tomorrow. By encouraging both men and women to carry condoms, we can foster a culture of shared responsibility and healthier relationships.
As 21-year-old Kwizera, a student, says: “Carrying condoms is about protecting myself and my partner. Why wait for something bad to happen when we can prevent it together?”
