As you grow older and start forming meaningful friendships and relationships with peers, it can be easy to focus solely on those bonds. But there are moments when it’s important to pause and prioritize meaningful conversations with your parents, guardians, or those who play a parental role in your life.
Many young people find it difficult to start conversations with their parents—especially when it comes to sensitive topics like mental health, relationships, or sexuality. If you’re going through confusing changes or difficult times, you might feel alone even when your parents are around. But have you ever stopped to consider that no one can truly guide and support you like a caring parent or guardian?
Some people grow up without parents, or in families where they don’t receive the support they need, and they miss out on having someone to open up to. Others turn to friends because their parents feel distant or unavailable—sometimes because friends seem to “get” them better. Still, whenever possible, having a conversation with a parent figure can be incredibly valuable.
Here’s what to keep in mind:
- Understand your emotions
There are days when you might wake up feeling sad, anxious, or just off—with no clear reason why. In moments like these, your parents are the first people you should consider talking to. They know you best and want the best for you.
Sometimes, young people seek advice from peers or others around them and end up with harmful or misguided suggestions. While it’s true not everyone has access to a supportive parent, it’s important to think carefully about who you confide in.
Asking for advice isn’t a weakness—it’s a strength. It shows self-awareness and a willingness to grow. Older people have lived through experiences and lessons you may not have encountered yet. A parent’s guidance can protect you from making harmful choices and help you make sense of things.
And if your parents aren’t present or capable of offering support, talking to another trusted adult—like a teacher, mentor, or family friend who has parental qualities—can be just as helpful.
Before starting the conversation, take a moment to reflect on what you need. Do you want advice? A listening ear? Reassurance? Knowing what you’re looking for can help you open up more clearly.
- Choose the right time
Not every moment is right for a deep conversation. Sometimes, even when you’re ready to talk, the timing just isn’t right. Maybe your parent is busy, distracted, or not in the right mindset to fully listen.
Think ahead about what you want to say. Plan how to express your thoughts and concerns in a way that’s clear and respectful. Even though you see your parents every day, approaching them about personal or serious topics requires maturity and focus.
Come into the conversation with intention and calm—not joking or defensive. And remember, if they’re not ready to talk in that moment, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. Try again when the time is better.
- Practice
For some, opening up to a parent is intimidating—especially if your parents tend to be strict, emotionally reserved, or not used to these types of conversations.
Speaking honestly and expressing feelings isn’t always easy. Some people get overwhelmed with emotion, lose their train of thought, or hesitate out of fear of being misunderstood.
That’s okay. Try practicing what you want to say beforehand—either by writing it down, talking to yourself in private, or even rehearsing in front of a mirror. It helps you find the right words and boost your confidence.
Also, remember: you don’t have to talk to your parents only when there’s a problem. You can share your goals, ideas, and hopes for the future. Ask for their perspective. Talk about things that scare you, confuse you, or inspire you. You might even ask them how they see you—what strengths they notice, and what areas they think you could work on. These conversations help build a deeper connection and show them that you’re serious about your growth.
